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More than just another book about discipline, though, unconditional parenting addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. Just like what in mentioned in the post, being a reactive parent, you focus on what you should do in order for your child to stop with their bad behaviors. And ive been told many times that parents have found his book unconditional parenting the most useful parenting book they had read. Just like what in mentioned in the post, being a reactive parent, you focus on what you. Unconditional parenting kohn, 2005 is key, but unconditional teaching is also important. Before this, i have read tons of parenting books and found that attachment parenting worked best for me.
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